A compliment given in regard to anything not "worked at" is "self-serving".
How backward is that? Extremely.
Examples:
1. "You have 'pretty' eyes or a 'cute' face."
2. "That is an 'expensive' shirt or 'shiny' jewelry."
Not examples:
3. "You are a 'sharp' dresser or 'fashion' conscious."
4. "That is a 'nice' car or a 'good' restoration."
"Compliments" 1 and 2 are anything but. They are directed at something an individual was "born with" or chose to waste money on.
"Compliments 3 and 4 are true compliments. "Effort" or "work" went into making them a reality which is what a meaningful compliment recognizes.
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