Abusive

 I have a theory about relationships categorized as "abusive".  That theory starts by saying key aspects of what we perceive as abusive relationships are simply backwards.

Before anyone should try swallowing that they'll need something from another theory a step or 2 back.  That theory goes something like each of our minds consists if 2 other minds working together in a blind-leading-the-blind configuration.

Let's get the basic definition of that out of the way now:

1.  There is a "conscious" sub-mind.

2. There is an "unconscious" sub-mind.

3. The mind uses something we call focus.

4. The mind uses something we call awareness.

5. The mind uses something called hypnosis but we're more comfortable calling it suggestion.

The term  sub-mind us used but no one should feel slighted.  In fact, feeling it perceiving a slight like that would potentially only occur with one secondary mind and not the other.)

Blind-leading-the-blind configuration means that in any given moment, one mind is essentially awareness while the other is focus.  Being aware of what's around us completely absorbs that mind and it's blind to everything else - except for the obvious.   Being focused on the moment does not completely absorb the other mind.  It's free to wander as responsibilities allow or all the time when it perceives no responsibilities.  You'd think that's not quite blind, but tunnel vision can result and it's the most difficult form of blindness to treat.

Everyone good so far?

The next post (and I hate to do an "on the next episode" thing like the TV show soap used too...). You'll learn why some idiot with no formal training or education or experience in things relationship or psychological will soon be claiming that the first type of crime with convictions that need to be COMPLETELY and UTTERLY stricken from the books is:

Domestic Abuse